SUITORS COMING FOR ME, BUT AM NOT DIVORSED YET, WHAT DO I DO?

Uche Amaka:

Pls i need some experienced igbos to help me tackle dis issue. I am a married mother of two nd i am 30yrs old. I got married four yes ago not knowing dat my husband was full of lies.

After our wedding,d truth about him,his job,his life style which he hid from me started unfolding. When i found out,he begged me not to leave nd dat he lied cos he didn't wnt to loose me nd promised to work on himself. On d other hand,i decided to help him in my little way to build a happy hme together since i also loved him.

Things changed when i became pregnant while still serving,he started neglecting me,drinking excessively nd smoking excessively. He started getting irritated at any little thing dat happens nd beats me even when someone else provokes him. He doesn't provide for me,rather he looks upto my little pay dat i got as a corper. Dis went on till i finished service nd gave birth to my baby.

As d baby came,his hatred for me increased nd he never wanted to hear of the baby nd yet he didn't want me to work. After six weeks of delivery,he threw me out with d baby with the reason that i'm using the baby to disturb his life. Then i went to my parents who nursed us without bothering to go nd pack my stuffs or d baby's own.

My husband ignored us nd went after other women. All my effort to make his stand up to his responsibilty as a husband nd father proved abortive. So we lived apart. Few months before two years of dis event,he came back begging me to cme back nd forgive him,he promised me that such thing won't happen again.

I went back to him cos of my baby,buh made some plans on how to better our lives,yet as i became pregnant again,his wickedness started. Dis time he stopped me frm going to church. He never provided for us. He'll leave d house any time his girlfriends call him. He didn't even care abt my ante natal care.

I was onli there because he didn't wnt pple to see him throw me out again,but he promised to make life miserable for me,so dat next time i won't believe anything he says. So this continued till i got infected,he refused taking me to d hospital for treatment nd said he'll only bury me if i die. I tried bearing all dis cos i couldn't go bback to my parents a secondtime.

But when my health was deteriorating nd i watched myself die slowly,i had to take a bold step nd walked out of d marriage for good. Atleast so that i can live for my kids. This is almost two years since i walked away. I had a baby boy nd has been calling him to come and see his children or even provide for them and he refused.

I thank God who has been providing for us. Now i work and take care of my kids. But my problem is dat i'm having suitors nd don't knw what to believe about men now. My family think i shouldd give someone a chance again so dat i'll be happy nd taken care of again. But i'm scared to suffer again in the hands of another man in d name of marriage.

Pls my friends, advice me on dis.

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David Silva

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THE SEED OF HONESTY: A MUST READ

A successful business man was growing old and knew it was time to choose a successor to take over the business.
Instead of choosing one of his Directors or his children, he decided to do something different.
He called all the young executives in his company together.
He said, "It is time for me to step down and choose the next CEO. I have decided to chooseone of you."

The young executives were shocked, but the boss continued. "I am going to giveeach one of you a SEED today – one very special SEED. I want you to plant the seed, water it, and come back here one year from today with what you have grown from the seed I have given you. I will then judge the plants that youbring, and the one I choose will be the next CEO."

One man, named Jim, was there that day and he, like the others, received a seed. He went home and excitedly, told his wife the story. She helped him get apot, soil and compost and he planted the seed
Everyday, he would water it and watch to see if it had grown.

After about three weeks, some of the other executives began to talk about their seeds and the plants that were beginning to grow.
Jim kept checking his seed, but nothing ever grew. Three weeks, four weeks, five weeks went by, still nothing. By now, others were talking about their plants, but Jim didn't have a plant and he felt like a failure.
Six months went by — still nothing in Jim's pot. He just knew he had killed his seed. Everyone else had trees and tall plants, but he had nothing. Jim didn't say anything to his colleagues, however… He just kept watering and fertilizing the soil – He so wanted the seed to grow.

A year finally went by and all the young executives of the company brought their plants to the CEO for inspection.
Jim told his wife that he wasn't going to take an empty pot. But she asked him to be honest about what happened. Jim felt sick to his stomach, it was going to be the most embarrassing moment of his life, but he knew his wife was right.

He took his empty pot to the board room. When Jim arrived, he was amazed at the variety of plants grown by the other executives. They were beautiful — in allshapes and sizes.
Jim put his empty pot on the floor and many of his colleagues laughed, a few felt sorry for him!

When the CEO arrived, he surveyed the room and greeted his young executives.
Jim just tried to hide in the back. "My, what great plants, trees, and flowers youhave grown," said the CEO. "Today one of you will be appointed the next CEO!"
All of a sudden, the CEO spotted Jim at the back of the room with his empty pot.He ordered the Financial Director to bring him to the front.
Jim was terrified. He thought, "The CEO knows i'm a failure! Maybe he will have me fired!

When Jim got to the front, the CEO asked him what had happened to his seed – Jim told himthe story.
The CEO asked everyone to sit down except Jim. He looked at Jim, and then announced to the young executives, "Behold your next Chief Executive Officer! His name is Jim!"
Jim couldn't believe it. Jim couldn't even grow his seed.
"How could he be the new CEO?" the others said.

Then the CEO said, "One year ago today, I gave everyone in this room a seed. Itold you to take the seed, plant it, water it, and bring it back to me today. But I gave you all boiled seeds; they were dead – it was not possible for them to grow. All of you, except Jim, have brought me trees and plants and flowers.

When you found that the seed would not grow, you substituted another seed for the one I gave you. Jim was the only one with the courage and honesty to bring me a pot with my seed in it.
Therefore, he is the one who will be the new Chief Executive Officer!"
* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust.
* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends.
* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness.
* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment.
* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective.
* If you plant hard work, you will reap success.
* If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation.
* If you plant faith in God , you will reap a harvest.

So, be careful what you plant now; it will determine what you will reap later..
"Whatever You Give To Life, Life Gives You Back"

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David Silva

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SITUATION CHANGES: LOVE NEVER CHANGES

A poor boy loved a rich girl. One day the boy proposed her.
Then the girl said, "listen! your monthly salary is my daily hand expenses. Should I be involved with you? How could you think of that? I will never love you. So, forget me 'n get engaged with someone else of your level."
But somehow the boy could not forget her so easily.

10 years later.
One day they became face to face in a shopping center. The lady said, "Hey! you! How are you? Now I'm married. Do you know how much is my husband's salary? Rs. 2 million per month! Can you imagine? 'n he is also very smart."

The guy's eyes got wet with tear by hearing those words.
After few minutes her husband came before the lady could say something to the guy, her husband started to say by seeing the guy.

"Sir! You here? Meet my wife." Then he said to her wife, "I'm going to assist a project of sir, which is of Rs. 200 billion. 'n do u know a fact? Sir loved a girl but he didn't get her. That's why still he is unmarried. How much lucky the girl was. Isn't it? Now a days who can love like that way?"


Moral: Life is not so short. So, don't be so proud of yourself and damn others. ..
Situations change with time. Every one should respect other's love.


REMEMBER: Things should be Used and People Should be loved.

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David Silva

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HOW GUYS FEEL, WHEN IN LOVE

We, boys, don't get butterflies, we get fireworks.
We don't have you on our mind24x7, but we do have you in our hearts.
Often,yes, we wait for you to go online, sometimes simply even just being online makes our heart skip a beat, even if we don't talk.

When ever you talk to us, our face forms that half-smile.
It means we are happy but we are trying our hardest to not show it, but we fail to hide it.
We do miss you all the time, we'd spend all our time with you if possible.

We don't think of the smallest things you say, we think of every word you say, panicking at every single word, trying to define what it really means, to read between the lines.
But wait, there's more...

We would love you in a million ways And once we start loving you, there is no going back for us.
No matter how hard we try, we will always love a girl that has touched us.

We, boys, when in love will think of that girl first thing in the morning, and last before we sleep at night. Whenever we see a couple, our thoughts immediately jump to that girl, and imagine that the couple was us.

Every single detail about her is loved. The way she walks, talks, speaks, the sound of her voice, her laughter, the sparkle in her eyes, her shy smile. The way she dresses.

That cute face she makes when she's asleep. And the way she says our name that our hearts just explode, a simple act that no one else can replicate.
A boy in love with a girl is no simple thing, though ladies stereotype us guys as simple.

A man in love is simple??? No. He will be unpredictable. He will be persistent,stub born, and given the circumstances, if it means carrying you from one side of the world to the other to win your heart, a man in love would.
He will show you how to appreciate the beauty of the world in a thousand ways, and then he will tell you how much he appreciated your beauty in a million ways. :')..♥♥

LITERALLYY in simple words they give their HEART to u gals...♥


Appreciate It.

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David Silva

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A SOLDIERS SACRIFICE: A MUST READ

Dear civilian girl,

You complain that your boyfriend has worked late all week a...nd have barely seen him.
-I look forward to the two weeks a year we spend together.

You complain because he doesn't call you enough.
-My heart is thankful for the 15 second phone call I got last Tuesday in the middle of the night!

You whine to your friends about how much you miss him already because he is on a two day trip with his parents.
-I won't see him for another 10 months!

You don't feel like making love tonight because you are too tired.
-We will stay up all night because we don't know when it will be the last time.

Your boyfriend belongs to you.
-Mine belongs to the government.

You hate hanging up the phone when talking to him.
-My heart breaks because I won't talk to him for another 10 days.

You complain that he doesn't take enough time out of his life for you.
-My man has to get up in the middle of the night to talk with me because of the time difference. He doesn't complain.

Your man is in a bad mood from not sleeping much this week.
-My man ran 10 miles this morning at 4 in the morning and has a full day ofwork ahead of him. He's lucky if he gets a few hours of sleep!

Your boyfriend can call in sick when he is tired or not feeling well.
-My man works no matter what!

You don't trust him so you follow him places to see if he is telling the truth.
-I have no choice but to trust him and even then I trust him with my life.

You check your phone, see you missed a call from him, and decide to call him back when you aren't so busy.
-I see a missed a call and cry, because I don't know when he can call again.

Your cell phone bill was high this month from talking too much.
-He pays 80 rs per minute to call me from Siachin … when he CAN call.

You love that fancy necklace he bought you
-I refuse to take his dog tags off, and not a day goes by that I don't have them on…

Many wil neva knw d sacrifices soldiers mk 4 their country.... Al dos cold lonely nights.

Treasure the little moments you have together, for You never know when it will come knocking again.

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David Silva

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THE WAY TO TREAT A GIRL: A GIRLS LETTER

Dear boys,

I know u may think its dumb but yes u have to text first.
Girls are stubborn, but if u make her feel loved,she would melt away.

Yes, you should try to make her day, make her laugh, reply fast, make her feel wanted.

If you love her, tell her. Don't talk about other girls & dont flirt with them,it willpiss her off.
Its not about Trust,its about her right over u..:)

Being a her boyfriend shouldn't feel like a full time or part time job, rather something u do bcz u can't stop thinking about her.

If u love ur girl, treat her like ur princess, not as a tympass.
Now either step up & treat her right, or step aside & let a real man love her theway she deserves.

It's that simple..

All guys, go out there and show them, indeed, that you truly love them.

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David Silva

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LOVE, WEALTH AND SUCCESS: WHICH DO YOU WANT?

A woman came out of her house and saw three old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them.

She said, "I don't think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat."
"Is the man of the house home?", they asked.
"No", she said."He's out."
"Then we cannot come in", they replied.

In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened.
"Go tell them I am home and invite them in!"
The woman went out and invited the men in.

"We do not go into a House together,"they replied.
"Why is that?" she wanted to know....
One of the old men explained: "His name is Wealth,"he said pointing to one of his friends, and said pointing to another one,"He is Success, and I am Love.
"Then he added,"Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home.

"The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed.
"How nice!!", he said."Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!

"His wife disagreed."My dear, why don't we invite Success?"
Their daughter-in-law was listening from the other corner of the house.

She jumped in with her own suggestion:"Wou ld it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!"
"Let us heed our daughter-in-law 's advice,"said the husband to his wife."Go out and invite Love to be our guest."

The woman went out and asked the three old men,"Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest.
"Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other two also got up and followed him.

Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: "I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?"
The old men replied together: "If you had Invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would've stayed out, but since you invited Love, Wherever He goes, we go with him.

Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success!!!!!!

ADVICE:
Where there is pain, I wish you peace and mercy.
Where there is self-doubting, I wish you a renewed confidence in your ability to work through them.
Where there is tiredness, or exhaustion, i wish you understanding, patience, and renewed strength.
Where there is fear, i wish you love and courage.

SEEK LOVE TODAY!!!

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David Silva

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